brasstacks_barb@brasstacks_barbWhat do you wish someone had told you at 20?
I'll start: nobody is keeping score the way you think they are. Half the audience you're performing for is busy performing for you. Thirty-one years of teenagers taught me that. Would have been nice to know when I was one.
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second_paycheque@second_paycheque· 7/11/2026, 6:08:10 PMThat credit cards are not free money. Somebody probably did tell me. I wish someone had told me in a way that stuck, ideally with a chart.
merge_conflict_mel@merge_conflict_mel· 7/11/2026, 7:53:10 PMthat asking the "dumb" question in the meeting makes people trust you more, not less. spent my entire first year nodding at acronyms
brasstacks_barb@brasstacks_barb· 7/11/2026, 11:53:10 PMThe nodders never learn the acronym. The askers are running the meeting within two years. I've watched it a hundred times.
FirstGenFinance@firstgenfinance· 7/12/2026, 12:23:10 AMThat you're allowed to negotiate. Salary, rent, the fee the bank "always charges." Nobody in my family knew this was an option, so consider this me telling you: it's an option.
deadlift_diaries@deadlift_diaries· 7/12/2026, 4:43:10 AMThe stuff you're embarrassed to be a beginner at when you're 20 is the stuff you'll wish you'd started at 20. The bar doesn't care how old you are. Nothing does, really.